Hello there smart-drinkers, your healthy bartender here!
Real quick, lately I have been under some scrutiny for not using all organic ingredients in my drinks, I mean it is in my name right? Before all the hate people, you must realize I do this for fun and not for perfection. It is fun bringing joy to people’s lives. If it is one thing I firmly believe in, it is that healthiness and happiness are positively correlated. If it is one thing I aim to accomplish here, it is to change people’s perspective on alcohol consumption. Please understand we do not live in a perfect world. Not every single ingredient in my drinks can be organic, it is practically impossible to accomplish that. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to, but it is just not possible in my position, especially in America where everything in our supermarkets is processed =X.
I am glad this came up though because it got me thinking about my life, the bar business, and my purpose on social media. Why do I do what I do?
Here is what I have come up with – At 22 years old, now a college graduate, I firmly believe that this summer has been my most productive and happiest one to date. I find that to be the case for many reasons. For one thing, college has molded me, but not in the way my parents thought it would, or even how I thought it would. Instead, get this, college actually taught me how terrible it feels to fail, how easy it is to fail, and how often, in the right situation, hopelessness can occur. More strikingly, college, more often for me in its last few semesters, reminded me that depression is a real thing.
I cannot begin to tell you how amazing graduation felt. It was then when I realized all of those other useful skills I garnered in college was now at my fingertips. I could now take all of that and focus my attention on things in life I actually gave a crap about!!!
Things I actually give a sh*t about:
Girls and Sex
Social Media (.Me)
What happens when you die? – College did not allow me the time to contemplate the things that really mattered in life. Are we alone in the universe? – For a while college held me back from finding out who I am, where I came from, and my purpose in the universe. What is our reason for living? – Simply, college took over my life. I was living in its realm of reality and not my own. — Weirdly enough though, I would not trade those four years for anything — Why you ask, I mean with all this negativity Joseph, how can you believe it to be a positive event? Here is the deal y’all, college throws at you the widest array of human techniques, teachings, languages, and thought processes, all of this with the help of the world wide web of course (answers to everyday questions at your disposal), and when your intellectual mind is forcibly stimulated with so much diversity something just clicks. For me it was the destruction of the American Wall, a theoretical cultural phenomenon which I found myself and those around me living behind, and in its place a Human Wall began to be built, but not before digging myself out of a trench of depression first. More specifically, I am trying to describe the point in my college career, I forget exactly when, but during my final semesters, when I understood how to maintain and maximize my happiness. I found myself saying no to certain practices and yes to others. In other words, I learned how to balance out happiness and depression so I can avoid the latter.
But, what makes me happy?
Not Biology 103. Not Ms. I have a monotone and you are stuck with me for the next 5 months & definitely not calculus homework.
No, what makes me happy is making others happy. Take this example, why am I in college in the first place? Well, I am doing it for my family. I am now the first one in my closest family to earn a college degree! The look on their face after graduation made it all worth it. My parents work so hard for me and my brother. I see my dad and mom working, doing things that cause them stress on a daily basis and what am I doing – feeding off of them, watching House of Cards & wasting their energy bill. All the luxuriousness in my life, one day, turned into a negative association. One day eventually, and might I add, inevitably, I want to be so rich that they never have to work another day in their life.
Tough feat, I know, but why not aim high, this is America right?
Now, if someone cannot appreciate my mission as an individual well then I am afraid they have much to learn about the human condition. They did not have that click go off like I did, and I fear these people live with anxiety. I fear more for them because depression will hit them hard sooner or later and for some people it can be bad timing. Some people are blinded by the “Walls” of their own cultures, not only in the U.S. but everywhere. Unfortunately, our world is strictly divided. More is to be done in order to bring the human race together, but the internet is one venue of positive unification, social media in particular. Social Media lets individuals share who they are with others instantly. I like to refer to social media as .Me, for obvious reasons. Instagram, for example, allows me to illustrate to the world my own creativity as an individual. I love Instagram simply because I get to see someone else’s .Me with the click of a button. .Me is connecting everyone a little bit more than any other previous generation before. Today, it is as if the world is getting smaller but possibilities are getting larger.
More access in our lives to the condition of more relativity comes with it greater responsibility.
My teachers at John Jay College, I would argue, recognized this. They were relentless because they knew we had the tools for success, the internet. The internet, though, is a distraction, at least it was for me. With such power staring me in the face, I found myself procrastinating, whether this be with Netflix, Social Media, or Candy Crush. Eventually, I would find myself falling behind so far after only one day of procrastinating that I would suffer anxiety for an entire week due to the excessive amount of workload my teachers gave me. I’m sure many people reading this can relate. Unfortunately, for me, sometimes depression followed.
Today, I look at depression in a different light. Here me out when I say I am happy to have experienced depression. You see, it was then when I first began to contemplate the really hard questions about life, the same ones I am asking myself again right now.
No, I am not depressed right now, so don’t worry. Things are going well actually, the OrganicBarman is staying strong 😉 and, of course, productive. Please stay tuned for more posts, I think the next few posts might be more educational, pertaining to the bar business. I want to talk about Rose’ Lime Juice in a future post (yuck) =P